WHAT’S NEW? SUNY New Paltz Parents Newsletter
DEPOSIT DEADLINE FOR ARD (ADVANCE ROOM DEPOSIT) FOR FALL 2015
If your student lives on campus, they will soon receive a notice from the Housing Coordinator to start thinking of whether they want to live on campus their second year, and to encourage them to speak to you about their deposit over Spring Break. They will also receive very specific information about deadlines for choosing a housing location, whether it be “Same Hall, Same Room”, or moving to another location on campus. Regardless of their preference, in order to secure on-campus housing, students who plan to live on campus will need to pay their $100 ARD before they will be able to sign-up for a room. The latest they can place an ARD is April 15th. This can be done at any time via their my.newpaltz.edu page by clicking on the “Residence Life” link and selecting the Pay Advance Room Deposit option.
NEW PALTZ IN THE NEWS
NEW PALTZ ON BEST PUBLIC COLLEGES LIST
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VETERANS IN THEATRE: NEW COLLABORATION COMING TO SUNY NEW PALTZ THIS MARCH
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FACULTY EXCELLENCE AWARD RECIPIENT TO GIVE SPEAKER SERIES PRESENTATION
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ARTICLE OF THE MONTH
“Getting ready to have your student home for their (and your) first Spring Break”
by Robin Cohen-La Valle, Dean of Students
[Note: Spring Break takes place in March, with classes ending the evening of Friday, March 13th and resuming on the morning of Monday, March 23rd. Most Residence Halls shut down for this break, whereby students must vacate their hall by Saturday morning, March 14th (10am) and can return after 10am on Sunday, March 22nd. The halls are locked during this period, however students are still encouraged to take valuables with them during their break (e.g. laptops, jewelry, cash, passport, ID’s, medications, etc.]
Next to the winter recess, Spring Break is the longest break of the academic year for college students. When we did an informal survey of New Paltz students, 90% said that they were planning to go home and catch up on sleep, see old friends, do readings they have been assigned, work on term papers and projects, possibly work part-time at an old job, and start applying for summer jobs or internships. As you can see, it is a misconception that most college students get to go away to a warm beach somewhere and bask in the sun.
In the meantime, although you may look forward to seeing their face more, having them around the house full-time will change the pace of what it has been like without them for a semester and a half. So how does that affect the household’s equilibrium? Prepare yourself- It’s no surprise that they will look forward to home cooked meals and time shopping with you. However, they might not be ready for you to tell them when to get home after going out with old friends, since you haven’t been there to give curfews this year. Believe it or not, most likely they probably will not be happy that you expect them to pitch in with chores they never liked and haven’t done in a while. For example- if they live on campus, while at school they had to do their laundry, but it is not uncommon for a student to revert back to expecting that even their own chores will be taken care of by someone else while on Spring Break!
So how can you best prepare?
– First, have realistic expectations. Anticipating a perfectly smooth, harmonious reunion without any disagreements will set you up for disappointment. If you bickered before, or your student wasn’t very forthcoming when it came to telling you what they were doing and feeling, be ready for the fact that they will have changed dramatically.
– Have an adult conversation with your student the first day back home. Something like, “I know you are an adult now, so let’s talk about what your plans are for the week, what you’d like from me, and what I hope to expect from you…”
– Choose select times to ask open ended questions of a stressful nature, as that will avoid you being perceived as if you’re ‘nagging’ them every day. For example, once or twice opening a conversation with: “So tell me what you’re thinking of doing this summer, and how I might help” vs. starting every day with, “When are you going to look for a job already, time’s running out!” will more likely keep communication open. Also, see if an aunt, uncle, or good family friend wants to broach these topics with your student. Sometimes questions coming from someone OTHER than a parent or guardian are not received with defensiveness. [I know my nieces and nephews respond VERY differently when I ask them something, even if their mom has asked them the very same question!]
– Finally, enjoy the moments you have with them. Take the space you need to do your own thing, expect they will want a little space of their own, and enjoy the time you overlap.
GETTING HOME FOR SPRING BREAK REMINDER
- Adirondack Trailways Bus tickets are sold in the Office of Student Activities and Union Services in Student Union 211. For details go to:
- Classic College Express runs express charter buses from campus to three stops: Roosevelt Field, the Exit 49 Park & Ride on the LIE, and Smithaven Mall. You can reserve tickets from New Paltz and back to New Paltz online at: http://www.classictrans.com/CollegeEx/co_npal2.html
Times for the Classic Trans buses are:
DEPART: Friday, March 13, 2015
Depart campus bus stop at 5:00pm
RETURN: Sunday, March 22, 2015
return to campus from:
Smithaven Mall 12:00 pm
Exit 49 Park & Ride 12:45 pm
Roosevelt Field Mall 1:30 pm
For other options, you can also visit our “Getting Your Student Home” site at: http://www.newpaltz.edu/current/gettinghome.html
SATURDAY MOVIE NIGHT SERIES: http://www.newpaltz.edu/keepingyouposted/movies.html
Saturday, March 7: “Pitch Perfect”
SUNY NEW PALTZ’S FIRST MINI SUMMIT: http://www.newpaltz.edu/summit
Wednesday, March 11
DISTINGUISHED SPEAKERS SERIES: REGINA CALCATERRA: http://www.newpaltz.edu/speakerseries
Wednesday, March 11
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